If you were or are planning a wedding for a date after March 2020, you don’t need anybody to remind you that you’re planning a wedding during Coronavirus. And you probably don’t need anybody to remind you that these are ‘unprecedented’ times, no matter how true it is! (And hopefully you’ve heard this a thousand times before, but still, it bears repeating: I’m so sorry you’ve had to change your plans.) With the weird world at the moment, you might be in dire need of a way to deal with the uncertainty and stress this is bringing to your wedding planning, and as a mindfulness for brides coach I’m here to help.
Uncertainty is one of the major causes of stress and anxiety, because as humans we like to know what’s going to happen next. Our brains like knowing what’s coming up so that they can prepare for what’s to come; and as we don’t have any past precedent for what that will be in this situation, we’re less able to prepare. This can then cause our minds to spiral and catastrophise.
This is true even without a meaningful event coming up; but when you’re planning a wedding during Coronavirus, this can be even more intense. And whilst I can’t cure Coronavirus – I’ll leave the virologists to that! – I can help you with a way to deal with this horrible stress and uncertainty.
How can mindfulness help with wedding stress and anxiety?
Mindfulness is the practice of keeping focused on the present, which helps calm a whirring brain down and slow anxious thoughts. And it’s not all just meditation either, I promise! There are loads of different ways of practicing mindfulness, including visualisation, affirmations and journaling [links].
What all these mindfulness practices have in common is grounding you in the now. This emphasis on the present helps us to focus on what we can control – even when it feels like the answer is nothing, the chances are there’ll always be something, that’s within our power to do, no matter how miniscule.
This level of focus also helps us organise our thoughts, which in turn creates some mental space to find solutions. Whilst tunnel-visioning onto a thought, obsessing and spiralling doesn’t usually provide us with any good solutions (though it often feels like it might, if we just go over the problem one more time!), the practice of giving our thoughts and feelings the space they deserve then actually frees up some more to work through it.
Mindfulness is also an excellent form of self care, as it allows for self-compassion. Acknowledging to yourself that it’s ok to face your emotions and give yourself time to feel uncertain – that it’s not only ok, but actually totally understandable! – helps soothe those frayed nerves and mile-a-minute thought patterns.
And this is also why mindfulness works even better as regular practice, as it can help to ground your mind and give structure to your day. 5 minutes of daily mindfulness can totally transform what your day has in store for you, and sometimes can even help nip the spiralling thoughts in the bud.
What do you think? If you want to know more about how to incorporate mindfulness into your daily routine, you can check out my resources here! And for the most up to date information on weddings in England, please head here.