Question

Dear Dotty,

I am a natural introvert and although I’m looking forward to my wedding day, I’m dreading walking down the aisle with everyone watching me – what if I trip and land on my face?! Please help, I’m finding it hard to sleep at night thinking about this as the day gets closer!

Shy Bride, Kent 

Reply

Dear Shy Bride,

Having wedding day worries is entirely normal, and pretty common in brides! It’s super important to find some anxiety calming methods that you can use to manage your nerves leading up to the day and on your wedding day.

If you’re struggling to sleep, try some visualisation exercises at bedtime to actively focus away from your worries. Take a deep breath and focus on breathing in and out deeply. We recommend inhaling for a count of four, holding for a count of seven and exhaling for a count of eight. Doing this a few times will help establish a rhythm for your breathing.

Close your eyes and visualise walking down the aisle. Focusing on all your senses will allow you to get into the zone, for example, what can you see, hear and smell? Use your imagination to create a dress rehearsal in your mind. How does it feel to walk down the aisle? How do you want it to feel? Is there a time you’ve felt the way you want to feel? Once you’ve found that happy feeling, focus on it while walking, ensuring to keep your breathing rhythm calm.

You can repeat this exercise as often as you need, to calm your mind as you go to sleep, so you’re ready when the day arrives. Practising this technique regularly will reduce your anxiety, and the more you practice, the easier it’ll become.

We have a Bride Visualisation Kit online, which provides you with guided visualisation prompts and a creative journal, so you can keep practising these skills and manage your stress response.

If you’ve got your dress and shoes with you, why not practice having a walk around at home?

We hope this is useful for you, however, if you need more support, don’t be afraid to reach out via mental health resources or speak to your GP about what’s troubling you.

Love Dotty x