Question

Dear Dotty,

I’m feeling really ‘meh’ about my wedding now that we’ve moved it 3 times due to Covid and I’m not even sure when it’s going ahead or if it’s even worth it anymore? How can I get excited about it again?

Anon

Reply

Dear Anon,

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way about your big day. There are a lot of brides out there who also feel like they’ve lost their mojo and it’s not a nice feeling to have. It has been a terrible year for weddings, and with such uncertainty, couples have either postponed their celebrations or had to get creative with what options are out there.

There have been some inspiring and ‘out of the box’ weddings that respect Covid-19 restrictions but still hold the same values were originally decided upon when getting engaged. Don’t be afraid to change some of your plans as resetting your perspective on the whole day will hopefully spark some excitement about getting married again by creating something to look forward to!

Don’t forget this day is about you and your partner, so do what’s right for you both. Ask yourself if it should be during Covid-19 or should you wait a bit to do everything? Perhaps you could even split the event up, such as marrying at a registry office one day with close family and friends, and having the reception another?

Through these tough days, practicing gratitude can support your wedding planning so you can focus on essential  topics without all of the external waffle. Who are you both grateful for now? Who do you really want to spend your special day with? Imagine you’re sitting there now as a married couple, what would you be grateful for?

Wedding planning can be stressful on a good day, let alone through a pandemic, so cut yourself some slack and remember the reason you wanted to get married in the first place. Have a read of our blog and read some tips to use on managing stress and anxiety to power through 2020 and beyond.

Don’t be afraid to ask for more help if you need it. There are many resources out there that can be super beneficial for your mental health and offer 24/7 support such as The Samaritans.

Love Dotty x